People often say to me “I wish I had the guts to do what you do.” OK, most don’t say exactly that but that’s the sentiment.
Sometimes they’re talking about me running my own business, sometimes they’re referring to me running a marathon, sometimes it’s about me telling it like it is 😉
Although I hear it a lot, I’m still surprised when people say it to me. I don’t think what I do is anything extraordinary. I think everything that I do, other people can do and maybe even better! I don’t think I’m anything special. But I am. You see, I don’t wish it, I make it happen.
Is wishing just an opportunity to moan about what’s missing from your life instead of taking action to change it? I’m not saying that everything you wish for you can have, but what if you decided to stop wishing and start getting? What would you have to do differently? How much do you honestly want it and do you have the guts to get it?
Here is a 5 step plan to building guts.
- Step 1 – Get Over Your Fear. There is usually good reason. You’ve had other priorities, you’ve been too busy, you can’t afford it or perhaps you’ve tried but failed. Thinking about why you don’t already have what you wish for, will help you work out what’s been holding you back. In my experience, fear is the single thing that stops us taking action to get what we want. Everything else is an excuse (often valid) but fear is really at the core of it.I’ve been reading Tim Ferriss’ “The 4-hour Work Week” (now on my iPad!), and he suggests an activity that I think is great for getting to the bottom of fear.What you do is, imagine the absolute worst thing that could happen if you pursued your wish. Would it cause permanent damage? What steps would you take to get things back on track? Chances are you could turn things around right?Now imagine the more probable scenario – what is more likely to happen? I bet it’s likely that you could produce a moderate outcome rather than the worst case scenario.Finally, think about what it’s costing you not to pursue your dream? How will you feel in another 10 years if you don’t take action?
- Step 2 – Get Uncomfortable. OK, this is where you need to get straight with yourself. It’s fine to wish for something that is within your means but if your wish is well beyond your means (resources, capability, control etc.) then your wish is a pipedream and you should see it as that and move on.There’s a difference between something being beyond your means and beyond your comfort zone. Having the guts to take action, usually means getting uncomfortable. Believe me, running a marathon is not comfortable! Running a business means learning new skills and feeling uncomfortable at times.Just do it anyway. Have guts, get uncomfortable.
- Step 3 – Work Out What it Will Take. I’m not talking here about winning the lottery 😉 What I am saying, is work through the steps required to achieve your wish.Let’s take an example – I wish I didn’t have to travel for work and be away from home all week.What actions could you take? What options do you have? Are you working with facts or feelings? How long will it take?Taking the time to work through what’s required, helps you see a clear path for what action you need to take. If you don’t take this step, then you really don’t know whether it’s achievable. You’ll don’t know how much guts you need until you know what needs to be done.
- Step 4 – Pay the Price. As the saying goes “be careful what you wish for”. Once you’ve worked out what it will take to get your wish, ask yourself two questions.First – Am I willing to do what it takes to get this?
Second – When I get it, what will it be like?Using the same example as we did in step 3, if you look at what needs to be done and the mere thought of it is overwhelming, then the chance of you doing something about it are slim to none. The price you’d have to pay for your wish is too high.Thinking then about the second question; if you did change jobs or started a business that gave you the flexibility to be home more, then what? Would you be wishing you had some time to yourself? If you are home more, will there be an expectation on you to do more around the house? Will you lose your frequent flyer miles and have to pay for flights and holidays in future?Everything comes with a price – if you say you want it , make sure you mean it!
- Step 5 – Take Action. Or, JFDI! Stop making excuses, stop moaning to others, stop thinking, wishing, dreaming. Instead start doing. If you get to this step, then you know why you haven’t already got what you want, you know it is possible for you to have it, you know what it will take to get it and you are prepared to pay the price. So now, take action.It sounds simple enough but this is where a lot of people come unstuck.They just can’t seem to make things happen.I work with clients who have most of the answers in their heads, some even have them written down in detailed plans, yet they don’t take action. Why?For some it’s fear of failure.Some are good thinkers and planners but not implementers.For others it’s procrastination – they can’t decide where to start or whether they’re doing the right thing or when’s the best time.
There are good reasons for not taking action and if you find yourself stuck, then at least have the guts to get some assistance.
There it is. A five step plan to building guts.
I’m not trying to be trivial or to suggest that it’s easy to get what you want. What I am attempting to do is to inspire you to do something about your wishes so that they don’t just stay wishes.
What do you wish you had the guts to do?
Have you made a gutsy change? How did that work out for you?
Have you ever had to face your worst case scenario? What happened?
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